By breaking
promises that we make in the "heat of the moment"
By criticizing
unjustly, tactless put-downs, unfair comparisons
Telling your
child that their opinion doesn't count or have any value
By giving the
child the opinion that you have never made a mistake
By never
spending quality time together with the child (children)
By never
telling the child, "thank you"
By nagging,
bossing, teasing, lecturing
The lack of
appropriate physical touch
Always seeing
the negative and never praising their positives
Taking revenge
out on the child because of your own frustrations
A Plan for
Parenting Teenagers
Become more of
a friend and less of an adversary
Be there when
they need someone to confide in and talk to
Set and live a
good example in front of them.
Be transparent
with your teen. You were a teen once, remember?
Use an
individualized approach. Each child is different.
Tune in and
listen for their fears, anxieties, and low self worth
Be willing to
go back to school. Attend parenting seminars to improve yourself and become a more effective parent
How to Mange
Your Anger in the Home
Stop and
recognize that you are hurt and your feelings are real
Try to
recognize where exactly you are frustrated. It helps to locate
it and know that your anger is a result of frustrations
Identify the
injustices you are feeling. Are you having thoughts of, "This is just not fair." or maybe, "I don't deserve this."
You may need to
stop the "Blame-Game." Blaming someone else and not stopping to see what you have done to make this problem does not solve the problem.
Understand that
"trapped" anger will drain your emotions and leave you physically sick
Is your anger
rooted in bitterness? You may need to practice some old fashioned forgiveness. Are you willing to forgive?
Make a
deliberate effort to turn your destructive anger into constructive anger. Constructive anger helps solve problems and mends relationships.
